What happens when the person who means the world to you is no more with you? You find yourself in a miserable condition and does that justify you? NO. You are much more than a broken heart. Broken hearts do take the time to heal, but they HEAL. Everybody has a special someone in their life. People play a very significant role in our lives. Breakups are uncomfortable, painful and affect us immensely. Ending a connection with your loved one is not an easy experience. We all carry an emotional baggage from our broken relationships. The hardest part is coping up with the breakup. It prevents us ever to be happy, but it doesn’t have to be this way. We should get up and cope up with breakups. Here’s how to deal with breakups.
1. Accept that it’s over
It is the first step and the most difficult one. If you have the hopes kept alive about getting back together with them, keep them aside right away. Keep the hopes aside and focus on what you have in the present. If it is meant to be, it will happen some other way but for now just keep the hopes aside and concentrate on yourself. It is an ugly truth, but it will help you in coping up. If you hope that they will come back to you, it will get even harder for you to move on. Stop looking at the old pictures, letters, e-mail, or chats. Don’t try to convince their family or friends; that’s called being manipulative. So accept the truth and focus on yourself more.
2. Embrace the feelings
It is normal. If you were in a serious relationship, it is very normal to grieve for the loss. Grieving is a part of loss which happened to you. Do whatever that comforts you or makes you happy. Ignore the world for a little while. Don’t just close yourself in a world full of sadness. Stay calm and happy. Grieve but don’t forget to get back to your normal life after that. You don’t have to get stuck behind.
3. Start looking out for productive things
Invest all your time in yourself. Do whatever makes you happy. Commit to reading a book or working on something. Take up a new hobby or continue with the old ones. The best idea would take time for yourself and travel wherever you want to. Meet you old friends and make new ones too. Keep setting tasks for your goals and accomplish them one after another. You will gain confidence in yourself again, and you will start feeling better. Keep your mind in a good frame and focus on the positive things rathers than the negative ones.
4. Stay in the present
Stop replaying the memories from your past! Remain in the present. Temporarily create future situations or thinking won’t help us in escaping out. Don’t ever stay stuck in your past in any bad situation of your life. Stay happy and move ahead. Look ahead for your future and make your present fantastic. Letting go is difficult. Sometimes letting go is less painful than holding onto something. It might be hurtful but let go of all the anger you have for them. If you two broke up, never have ill thoughts about them. If they start seeing someone else, stay happy for them. Don’t trash talk about them to other people. Holding onto the anger and disappointment will only damage you and nobody else.
5. Stop proving yourself wrong
If your beloved left you, that doesn’t mean you were wrong in every step you took in your relationship. Never blame yourself for anything. When you accept it, you will never blame yourself. You cannot fix what has happened in the past and beat yourself up all the time would not help you. It will just harm you in this process. Accept everything that happened.
6. Understand that you are not useless
Nobody in this world is perfect. You are no less if the relationship didn’t work out. You should keep up with your values and never forget them. Your values are based on how you perceive yourself. You should think positive about yourself and have healthy thoughts. Never hate yourself. The ones who value themselves are the people who are appreciated by others. Stay happy and the world will smile back at you.
7. Meet new people
You can’t get obsessed over a past relationship forever. Slowly you have to start meeting new people again, not for the wrong reasons, though. Never try to fill the void of the past relationship with a new one. That is being selfish. Never rush things. Let it work accordingly. When people rush things, it often leads them into wrong paths which harm them.
8. Stay with your close ones
Staying with your close ones is a part of healing. They love you, and they help you out of it. They make you remember that there are people in this world who are grateful for having you in their lives and are happy with you. They will always accept you the way you are.
9. Give it time
It is the simplest advice one can give to the individual who is miserable because of a broken relationship. Just give everything time. When you lose someone close to you, you will never feel okay within overnight. You need to have patience and calm yourself down. Spend time with good company and meet new people. Play games, go out and indulge yourself in your hobbies. Giving time and taking it slow would make it simpler for you.
10. Lessons learned
You had learned your lesson. Even if the relationship ended, you would have uncountable experiences to look back at; these are the experiences which made you a better person and helped you in growing up in a mature way. Now you know how to handle situations like these.
Be mature and Don’t worry, Time Heals everything
It’s important to be mature at the times you face a crisis in your life. It’s not easy to cope up but can you stay miserable all your life? NO. You need to get up and show up. There is a lot kept ahead wrapped in gift boxes for you. Travel the world. Distract yourself and stay positive in life. One broken relationship doesn’t indicate that you’ll never have a happy and healthy relationship in your life. Accept whatever comes your way that’s called being ‘STRONG.’ A happy person is the healthiest one. All the best to everybody out there who are struggling in their journeys.